Real life #2 – Trust in Life
Last week we discussed Reality or our true nature as what is most basic in us, most essential in us… our being.
Over time we have examined various qualities of Reality: it’s realness and existence, the spaciousness and peace of reality, it’s infiniteness, love, peace, joy, and so on.
Babies are completely in touch with their being, with their true nature. They are being, they experience themselves as being, without being consciously aware of that fact. It simply is that way for them.
Babies are out of touch with circumstances. They don’t understand them at all. They can’t function without their mother’s total care.
The child cannot distinguish the true nature of reality from its surface manifestation, it’s circumstances.
He equates the surface with the depth.
The child loses his trust of reality because as he experiences difficulties and in his young life he equates those pains with the depth of reality not merely its surface manifestation of circumstance.
For example, if the child is rejected, or not fed properly, or enmeshed, or left alone too much, and so on, he will associate all of that with Reality itself. Instead of understanding that his circumstances were simply not ideal.
Circumstances are never ideal, difficulties happen to every baby in greater or lesser degree… that doesn’t mean anything about Reality itself.
When difficulties arise he becomes defensive to survive and develop. That defensiveness gets applied to Life itself… God, Being, Reality, not just the difficult circumstances that life inevitably entails.
He becomes cautious, fearful, strategical, avoidant, even opposed to Reality because he can’t distinguish that the depth (Reality in its essence) remains trustworthy. He projects the surface onto the depth.
As he becomes defensive against the whole he experiences himself as more and more separate from the whole… more alone. He loses his initial identity as the whole and becomes the defensiveness. He identifies with the avoidant, hostile, strategical, inflated patterning that helped him survive.
Through identification with this relationship blueprint he becomes further and further disassociated with all the qualities of Reality… peace, joy, and so on.
If true understanding of the nature of Reality, our essential nature, our true nature, blossoms then defensiveness is not required. Only discernment is required to see that the surface is not the depth.
One begins to understand that whatever difficulty arises is a surface temporary manifestation of Reality and that Reality itself is whole, complete, love, etc. He did not have this discerning capacity as a child.
His parents mistreatment or any difficulty in relationship or problem with his surroundings or body, etc. are merely the surface of Reality, not its true nature, not his true nature.
He learns to take them in stride… and not make them mean anything about life itself or about himself, ultimately. He is free to enjoy life, to enjoy being, to be being, to be what he is, in all it’s fullness.
Any yes, he still has to deal with the comforts and discomforts of life… but they don’t hold the meaning they did.
Self-development is a process of regaining trust in Reality, which involves seeing circumstances and one’s blueprint (ego, etc.) for what they are… survival strategies based in the assumptions of a child.