Maria and Richard’s Sensuality Expansion Program

Our Sensuality Expansion Program was a ten day DO-date, refined to the point of elegance and ascending to new heights with each peak. It began with the resolution, a process in which we each resolve any doubt about our own perfection. This immediately defined the program and what each of us was going to break through. For Maria, it was activating and generating herself (vs her tendency to be passive in her life and her orgasm!). For me, it was stillness and silence (vs frenetic!).

Maria got her perfection on day two, in the moment she was declaring it. She said she was perfect, and then felt her self-doubt arise. Immediately she playfully acknowledged looking to Erwan to see if she was right. In that moment, she realized she could be right and fun being exactly how she was, and that there was nothing to hide or change. I then renewed my resolution, getting my perfection, ego and all, in a profoundly new and deep way.

On day three, Maria saw how to apply her resolution in DOing. During the inventory (where Alicia and Erwan observe our DOing as it is currently), Maria was paralyzed with nervousness, and I didn’t confront it. The date didn’t get far off the ground before Erwan stopped it. Erwan explained that for Maria to expand her orgasm, she needed to actively leave her psychology at the door and generate, rather than hoping someone would take care of her. He explained that I should remain unattached and simply and straight forwardly speak the truth when I feel something is off. After a one-on-one conversation with Alicia, Maria was ready to bring it. During the next session, she came like no one had ever seen before. My favorite frame was the moment I spread the lips of her pussy. They were full and her pussy was pushed out more than I’d ever seen. It was alive, juicy and hungry. After the date, Maria shared about her experience, saying that she simply chose to prioritize fun. She was beautiful, and captured everyone’s attention.

It was in this moment that I saw my ego in a new way. With the help of a kick from Erwan, I saw myself trying to steal the spotlight from Maria. I realized how much my ego yearned for being seen all the time, with no attention on even the person I loved most. I got that stillness was the antidote to my attention hungry ego.

The following days felt like an upward streak, with delicious peaks throughout. Erwan and Alicia began coaching our DOing, diving into consistency, smoothness, authoritativeness, intensity, and variation. After activating and generating, one of the biggest openings for Maria was asking for and being right with what she wanted. There was a moment during a date when Maria asked me to bring her down a bit with a firm stroke on her clit. She said it completely rightly, and I realized that I had been trying to bring to her up. Her words pulled me into alignment, and she moaned in orgasm with the firm stroke.

For Maria, the breakthrough was in maintaining her intention through the end of the date. When Erwan did Alicia, he always pointed out that Alicia was cumming from the first stroke to the last. One of my favorite frames was at the end of one of their dates after the towel stroke was complete. I noticed Alicia’s toes continuing to vibrate involuntarily, and felt the orgasm still in her face and eyes. For Alicia, life is a continuous DO-date.

One of the biggest openings for me was in having free attention. There was a moment in a date with Maria that Erwan was coaching me. As he was speaking, I took a deep breath, and felt at the same time both his words and Maria's perineum. As Erwan coached me, my fingers were drawn to different parts of Maria's pussy, and she continued to cum. By being in my body, an enormous range of experience was available to me. Maria's perineum, introitus, lips, and clit came alive simultaneously. My speaking became crisper and more grounding. Our dates began to follow the tempo and rhythm of the music that was playing. And peaking Maria more often became natural and intuitive. One of my favorite frames from Erwan and Alicia’s DOing was noticing Erwan peak (take tiny breaks) Alicia five times during a single stroke. Alicia moaned with each peak, and the room moved higher and higher into ecstasy.

The challenge for me was in maintaining free attention through the highs of each date.  What I would do instead was fall into bewilderment when we would get high and “non-confront” the experience. A breakthrough came when Erwan was doing Alicia, and he said, “When you feel that sense of bewilderment, or any doubt at all, peak her.” On the next date with Maria, I remember a moment when I thought of peaking her, then did it, despite my doubt that it was too soon. Maria's body simultaneously relaxed and released, and our connection deepened as my finger moved down her pussy to her introitus.

Our graduating date brought it all together. Maria's pussy pulled my hands and fingers around it. Her introitus was vibrant, sucking and pushing on my thumb. As she made requests, she released into my strokes, and reached for my finger with her clit. She delighted in the strokes I made with my thumb on a spot we’d discovered on her perineum. It was the most connected date we had ever had, and the ridges of Maria's pussy vibrated on my thumb as she came down. I toweled her off, and we all celebrated the ecstasy filling the room that Maria had generated.