What a relationship is

Communication is synonymous with relationship.  What else is a relationship besides ongoing communication?

playing cards It is also synonymous with vulnerability. To communicate with someone is to open and expose yourself the them.

It is also synonymous with truth.  For there to, in fact, be communication, truth must be present; otherwise it would be miscommunication.

The opposite is unrelatedness, defensiveness and lying or withholding.

Unrelatedness, defensiveness and lying or withholding are not morally wrong.  They just simply don’t work to be more related to someone, closer to them… to have a better relationship with them.

What a relationship actually is… is communication.

Would you be willing to put your cards on the table today?

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3 Responses to “What a relationship is”

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  2. Sultani says:

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  3. Kelsey says:

    This is great to hear, thank you!

    And after receiving some great coaching from Erwan about a week ago, I dove into having a very sophisticated conversation with my partner, Aaron. The topic? Setting boundaries and standing for what I want. One of the things that I communicated with Aaron is that he has to be willing to talk with me about anything–especially the things that keep him from being present and with me fully in our relationship. That doesn’t mean that I won’t give him space to feel through whatever emotions/feelings that come up for him in the moment, but that for our relationship to work, he has to be willing to open up completely at some point (preferably within a week).

    It felt so good to stand up for what I want and be confident that having this conversation would bring us closer. Now our relationship feels new and exciting again and we feel so freed up to just enjoy each other and have fun!