We will further explore the challenges we confront when we attempt to change ourselves and discover the key to effortless change.
Imagine trying to change your internal reality and your external reality at the same time. By inner reality, I mean you’re head reality, how you felt, what you thought, and by external reality I mean your circumstances, your environment, the situation you’re in. Imagine trying to change both because somehow you knew that they were both false, or at least that your head reality was false, and that your external reality had been largely created or influenced by your head reality.
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So it wasn’t so much just trying to change your thought about something, but rather your thought had actually manifested in your environment so that the change you now wanted to create was much steeper. A good analogy would be, imagine feeling totally isolated, totally alone, and very separate (internal reality), and then at the same time living in an abandoned part of town, off the suburb of some very small city, rarely speaking to anyone. |
The reason this is so much more difficult to change is not just because it’s twice as much to change, but once it’s gotten into your external environment, there is an enormous amount of evidence for the mind version, the isolated alone abandoned feeling, and it becomes much much harder to change the mind, and hence change the environment back.
The way to deal with this is to go right to the center of your inner reality, the center of all your thoughts, to your first thought that holds all the others together. It is “I”. If that thought is transcended then not only are all of the issues of him or her transcended, but the very person who had them is gone. You are left.
If you want to transcend the “I” sense, then inevitably you are going to have to confront major self doubt. If you don’t go for transcending that “I” sense then you can numb yourself to the self doubt to a certain degree. But, if you do go for transcending the “I” sense, commonly called Realization or Personal Growth, then inevitably you will have to confront the self doubt associated with that “I” sense. You’ll have to confront that portion of the blueprint of your mind. It really is the center of the blueprint.
Effortless change simply comes from moving through the center of the blueprint, which is the “I” sense. If you realize you are not that, you will merge with everything, and all desired changes are accomplished effortlessly. Things are just right.
Tags: blueprint, change, Personal Growth, realization, self doubt
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I’m really enjoying this series of lessons on change! I had an awesome registration meeting with Alicia yesterday. Thanks to what we are learning, I dropped my usual hidden-self way of being and it was effortless being open and vulnerable and telling her what I really want. I am looking forward to the last in the series tonight!
Thank you! Feels like there has been many changes lately and this is the perfect reminder and guidance.
Having just returned from visiting my family, it’s clear how powerful transcending the “I” sense can be. By releasing the identification with it, interactions that once were full of suffering suddenly become easy and fun. It also opens up space for me to fully accept my family and to have compassion for them and for myself.
I’m so glad I read this tonight! All day I was feeling like something was terribly wrong and I couldn’t figure out what. Reading this blog, I realize that at core of my issues today (which were insignificant) was me vacillating between feeling self doubt and then numbing out to it. I realize that I was resisting feeling through it until now. Phew. I feel relieved and I found there was nothing there in the first place.
I love the way the 2 blogs on change weave together. It feels so gentle and profound to relate to myself as a complex being and to get that change is something that needs to evolve naturally … when I force it through the “I” sense, I’m actually reinforcing that part of me rather than the natural effortless change.
Getting present to the “I” sense and the authentic self that is observing it is the most powerful experience I’ve had in meditation.
There is a whole world of miracles, intuitive powers, psychic abilities, healing that I’ve dismissed in the past when others shared experiences with me. Our meditations lately are bringing out this feeling in my heart that there is a power I’ll get to experience and share by being more open to experiencing what had always been there. I would never have said things like that in the past because they didn’t make logical sense to me. Now I get to say them and logical sense doesn’t matter:).
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This is so great! At the core of the blueprint, the “I” sense, I experience a fear of not being enough or of being too much, causing self-doubt and separation. I see by noticing it for what it is: “It is just a thought”, confronting the self-doubt, feeling it and moving through it, there is freedom, connection and effortless change naturally arises. Thanks!!
This makes so much sense. I can see that transcending the i sense changes the “need” to change into something fun, which makes it so much easier.
This is very interesting. What I get from this is that what you *think* about a situation is not the same as what the situation itself *is*, and learning to distinguish the two is tremendously valuable to self-growth and actually getting out of an objectively bad situation. I’m not sure I would call it “transcending the I” unless you mean the false “I”–it means recognizing that our thoughts about a situation can create a false sense of identity that keeps you tied to a false/non-productive sense of yourself that keeps you from contacting and experiencing what *is*, right now. And I like what Aaron said–letting yourself feel the self-doubt and knowing that you’re not a bad or worthless person for it, which allows you to be in reality more fully, and deal with the situation. Thanks!
Quick Q: I want to get healthier and lose weight. How can I make this change effortless? I probably need to commit to going to not staying up late at night, as this seems to disrupt my immune system. I can see that both the health and weight issues probably stem from aspects of my identity that I’m committed to. But it feels like I have a blind spot here. I can’t follow the connection from the effect to its cause. Any advice here? Thx! J
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Awesome! My favorite part was reading the phrase “the center of all your thoughts, to your first thought that holds all the others together. It is “I””. Reading it, I was brought right to the center of my blueprint and I experienced the “I” sense and felt freedom from it. Thank you!
I have the same experience as Elisabeth. This topic has brought me back to the conversation we had in the Sensuality Expansion Program, where I got that my thoughts, feelings, and extreme experience of self-doubt are not true. While I experience them all, none of them at all represent who I am. I see how those thoughts and feelings come along with that “I” sense and that when it is OK for me to experience those things, it is also much easier for me to let them go and return to who I am–all of it, everything, being. Thank you so much for your guidance and love!
Effortless change looks to be so much more enjoyable than what I’ve tried in the past regarding changing both my inner and outer environment and circimstance – namely using force and tremendous self-will towards a particular end or goal. I’m certainly interested in learning how to more effectively go right to the center of my inner reality, blasting through it, and coming out on the other side more confident, more awake, more my true self, and more comfortable. I’m finding that fear often holds me back and I could certainly benefit from some additional guidance in overcoming this fear and really getting down to the core and moving through it – scary business if you ask me – but I have a sneaking suspicion that the lasting reward is well worth the temporary discomfort!
What a great information! Many times I can see my self focusing on my circumstances or being self critical. It always seems so hard when I go that route. I love that there is an effortless way. Knowing to put my attention on transcending the “I”. Allowing myself to feel the self-doubt. And taking the time to come back to reality and realization. Makes all the difference for me. Great post!
Wow, thank you for writing this so eloquently. It brings me right back to my resolution in the Sensuality Expansion Program. Yes, things are just right. ; )